STRESS, PHYSICAL TENSION, ANXIETY, AND FATIGUE
MF writes: When muscles become tense, the sensory receptors (spindle fibers) within them send out a constant stimulation to the brain asking it to relax the muscle. The message is outgoing, fills the nerve channel, and therefore no incoming message is possible. The brain itself becomes tense from this unending barrage of requests. The muscles weary of their fruitless labor, and lose the capacity to receive clearly messages even if they were able to get through.
The result is that the local muscle tension cannot be relieved.
When tension in the head becomes the focus of our attention, we lose awareness of our muscle tension, yet it remains. We can alleviate mental tension by relaxing the afflicted muscle. Or, the reverse is also true: relaxing the brain will release muscle tension.
To put it another way, the brain must be freed from its thrall to the stimulation of the muscle's sensory receptors. The brain's attention must be turned in another direction.
For example: you're studying for a test. The body automatically gears up to work at full throttle. As you read and write, your neck becomes tense, then warm, then even feverish, at which point neck ache begins. When the tension in the neck passes a certain critical level, the tension leaves the neck and goes to the head, producing a sensation of swelling to the skull, and tightness in the skin around it. At this point, the brain can no longer work or concentrate effectively. No matter how much you force yourself, there is too much tension to allow penetration and retention of information and data. The problem with the head is, in fact, a manifestation of a neck that could not support its tension.
The muscles in the neck are responsible for the mental tension. It is they who have sent the unending stream of messages to the brain that ultimately clogged the nerve channel. However, the head alone is thought to be both the cause and effect of the problem, the head alone is worked on, and the true problem is not alleviated.
Tension in the arm will produce a change of thinking; if it persists and worsens, it can lead to a change in personality. Relaxing the head is a start; however, relaxing the arm is necessary to return the individual to his/her original self.
It is possible, therefore, to 'read' a person's character and way of thinking by observing the state of tension in the body, especially if the tension persists in the same way.
This approach is a little hard to follow. Why should there be an interaction between mental function and physical movement?
The fact is that we manifest this interaction constantly. When we are angry, we clench our fists. When we are annoyed or frustrated, we clench our jaw. When we are frightened, we open our eyes wide and hold our breath.
To test this interaction of mind and body on yourself, try laughing out loud while looking down at the ground, or weeping while looking up toward the sky. You have to force yourself to do it. It feels 'unnatural', which is why Hollywood heroines crying up at the camera produce such a powerful reaction on us viewers.
One overlooked, perhaps unknown, relation between physical and mental tension, is seen in the relation between the Achilles Tendons and mental activity. The tighter (tenser) the Achilles Tendons, the greater the useless mental activity. People suffering from anxiety have AT's as tight as bowstrings. Tight AT's result in what I call "mental static", meaning repetitive, unwanted, and useless thoughts that rob us of mental clarity.
Human beings learn life from the ground up. Babies lie on their back and seek their environment with their legs and feet. To calm, sooth, pacify, and induce sleep in a baby or infant, just hold their heels and AT's in your hands as they lie on their back, and send qi into the tendons. You will have a quiet, sleeping baby within a minute!
The 4th thoracic vertebra (T4), located about 3-4 inches below the neck, is related to shrinkage/tightening/ tensing of the body. It is thus a reliable indicator of anxiety. When the muscles on either side of T4 tighten, you can expect tightening somewhere in the upper body. For example, stiff shoulders are common. Extreme tightening alongside T4 can pull the muscles aligning T5 and T6, and this leads to gastric problems such as belching, acid reflux, heartburn, and loss of appetite.
This upper body tightening is closely related to brain tension. The mind loses its clarity, discernment, and sharpness of perception. In cases when the sufferer takes his/her shoulder pain and loss of mental powers to a physician, he/she is usually told that the problem comes from stress. But it is never made clear just what stress is. The sufferer goes home thinking that simply by changing his/her lifestyle, or by removing something harmful from his/her daily activity, the aches and pains will disappear, and his/her mental powers will be restored.
I propose that stress is not a cause, but a result. That to talk about stress, you should define it as: a muscle which has shrunk so tight (or grown so rigid) that qi cannot be released into or out of it; and thus the muscle cannot perform its proper function. From this single source, the tension spreads until it comes to impinge on the brain, the stomach, or both. The source of the tension may be internal or external--however, the body cannot be restored to health without releasing the original muscle and then relaxing the brain.
Speaking of tension brings us to fatigue. If the entire body became fatigued, one would die from a breakdown of all bodily functions. The body may feel fatigued, but in fact, only one part of it is. Restore flexibility and vigor to that one part, and all the rest will follow.
Fatigue is related to body habits, and thus usually crops up in the same place in an individual over and over again. The hallmark of a fatigued part is that, though there is the flexibility to expand and contract, there is not enough of either. The body part functions neither well nor poorly. It just feels unsatisfied and unsatisfying.
To return to T4, even infants can suffer from anxiety. I once treated a 22 month-old infant, clearly suffering from anxiety and a nervous-related rash. T4 was twisted to the right, and it quickly became apparent that anxiety had produced the twist and not vice-versa. But why? It turned out that the mother had told the child she was determined he would be potty trained within two weeks. She declared a deadline. She would take away his diapers with or without being potty trained after 14 days. After all that time of being allowed to pee and poop as he pleased, the child's response was one of anxiety bordering on panic. T4 was easy to untwist once the mother told her child that she would gradually wean him away from diapers. His rash was gone within 48 hours.
Finally, tension/stress results in a decrease of our powers of enjoyment. When we are not happy when we should be, when we do not have the physical/emotional/sexual desires that stimulate and promote our well-being, our energy has been blocked, perhaps even turned inward. It is the task of SIKE treatments to restore relaxation to the afflicted body part and the whole mind, so that full mind-body satisfaction becomes once again possible.
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THOUGHTS AT YEAR'S END 2006
MF writes: I have always tried to maintain the happy, Wordsworthian outlook that "all that we behold is full of blessings," and to bring that optimistic outlook to those I treat. In the back of my mind, however, have lurked the misgivings of Aldous Huxley in his amusing and dark essay, Wordsworth in the Tropics. Huxley wrote that as long as Wordsworth was in England's "green and pleasant land" where he saw "a host of golden daffodils/beside the lake, beneath the trees/fluttering and dancing in the breeze," where he and Mary could give laudanum-laced high tea to their cultured friends, and the most vicious animal around was a rogue sheep, his romantic and optimistic outlook was perfectly natural. But change the environment:put him in a tropical jungle with wild beasts, vipers, crocodiles, poisonous flora, and an oppressive climate... a hostile environment which demands the utmost energy and skill simply in order to survive... well, Wordsworth would not have had the time or strength to write uplifting poetry, much less paeans to all things comfy, blessed, and ethical. In fact, poetry would have been far from his mind.
In short, all of the "things meant to comfort and aid us are of benefit only in so far as we have the physical leeway to accommodate them. Shakespeare, of course, put it succinctly: "There was never yet philosopher/That could endure the toothache patiently."
Over the years, I have written and counseled (in an optimistic and Wordsworthian way) about restoring mental equipoise and physical health through breathing, walking, kiryu, and a variety of body-based exercises. You know the message: "Every breath lost to agitation is a moment lost to life. Stay calm and centered. Breathe deeply. Laugh often." I had been living in a "green and pleasant land where my counsels had brought me, if no one else, comfort and blessings.
This year I was abducted and dropped into the "tropics. My philosophy was too soft and complacent for the harsh realities of that environment, and began to wilt. More than that, the magnitude of the suffering I encountered so overwhelmed me that I was at a loss for any philosophical solace even for myself.
Only When I Laugh
During this year, I was asked to treat, for the first time, ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis, also called Lou Gehrig's disease).
I had an initial experience with a group suffering from RSD (Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy), the new nomenclature for CRPS (Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome). I was also presented with a woman whose story of emotional trauma was so bizarre and shocking, that I would not have believed her save for the extremity of mind/body suffering that her tragic accident had created.
The dreadful suffering and sadness of ALS knocked me for a loop. However, my encounter with RSD was particularly horrifying. I was asked to give an educational and inspirational lecture on "Coping With Pain to a support group of RSD sufferers. During the years of my practice, I have sometimes come to see myself in the role of Healing David versus Pain Goliath. RSD was a different dimension. This was Goliath's bigger, meaner brother together with 18 of his scary friends. How do you tell 20 people with morphine pumps that tranquil, steady breathing is the key to health and longevity? What uplifting words come to mind when confronted by unspeakable, disfiguring pain caused by a medical mishap? "Take long walks, and don't forget to floss!?
My mind went blank, then two thoughts arose. The first was that there really are worse things than death. The other was an old joke: The battle is over, and a soldier is shot full of bullet holes. Life is draining out of him. A well-meaning chaplain rushes over and asks, "Does it hurt, son?" "Only when I laugh, Father," the soldier says, and expires.
How do you comfort strangers in an unremitting extremity of pain and suffering? What are the words? How do you avoid the pitfall of the well-meaning, but buffoon chaplain?
Back to Wordsworth
Wordsworth has an uneventful poem called Michael in which an elderly shepherd and his wife lose their son. The poem contains the lines:
There is a comfort in the strength of love;
'Twill make a thing endurable, which else
Would overset the brain, or break the heart.
What is gripping about the passage is that the reader is left to decide what that love is. Is it the parents' love for their dead child? The couple's love for one another? The old shepherd's love for Nature? Nature's love for the old shepherd? Or is it just Love?
The comfort exists in the very depth of the emotion. The details are immaterial.
Now stay with me.
I had to find a deep core in order to enable myself to endure the suffering I encountered, so that I could help ameliorate that very suffering. I re-discovered the strength of qi. The qi which is adaptable, the qi which is intention: the intention to help, to comfort; the intention to love life, your own and others'. By substituting qi for love, I became proof against heartbreak, and found the strength to help.
Wordsworth was back!
Life is indeed lovable, especially when one is healthy. Never mind Wordsworth in the Tropics. You could write the same essay on Wordsworth at the Infirmary. A loss of health diminishes quality of life, and certainly calls into question the "inherent lovability of living.
Huxley got it wrong in one large sense. Wordsworth would have been a poet in the tropics, but he would have been a different sort of poet. His poetic voice would not have had the range in the tropics that it enjoyed in the Lake District. He would not have been so lyrical or optimistic. But he would have found a love of life, an intention to be uplifting and ethical, and expressed it within the severe limitations of his environment. His qi would have adapted.
Pow! Zap! Boom!
Meanwhile, back at the infirmary...
The Gospel of St. John begins: "In the beginning was the Word..."
The poet Goethe revised it to say: "In the beginning was the Act..."
I realized that words were worse than useless; that was where the chaplain blundered. To act was the only healthy expression of intention. My qi surged together with my desire to act.
I said nothing to the ALS woman. I focused on my intention to restore to her even a shred of conscious control over her own body by finding links along her neural pathways. She was able to consciously move her foot after 45 minutes.
I said nothing to the RSD group. I took a volunteer and treated her while the group members circled around me in their wheelchairs, and watched. The woman's pain diminished, and she regained a bit of movement in her arm. Her face had good color. (The group members were very pleased with the outcome, but angry with me. The volunteer had not been a group member, but an observer there just for the evening. Even so, I am still part of the group.)
And the emotionally traumatized woman of great pain? She went from wearing only black clothing so that she would be suitably dressed for death, to bright pink ensembles. She is pain free. I am not sure that bright pink is a life-affirming or qi-enhancing color, but it works for her.
I could provide these sufferers no hope for the future, nor could I provide them an optimistic outlook on life. What I did manage to do, in a small way, was to provide relief and comfort. A sort of restful lodging for the night during a long, ghastly journey.
Yeah, So...?
I will try to remain optimistic in outlook, and try to provide hope to the people I treat for a bright, healthy future. I have my health, and so I have the leeway to keep the spirit of Wordsworth alive within me when I work.
However, I will no longer be writing of guidelines to health, keys to health, breathing for health, Tranquility for President, Serenity is King, chewing your food slowly guarantees long life, a positive attitude removes wrinkles, or any other platitudinous panacea.
I will keep my mouth shut, and act in such a way that I exercise:
...the best portion of a good man's life,
His little, nameless, unremembered, acts
Of kindness and of love.
William Wordsworth (1798)
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REMEMBERING TAKESHI WATABE
1915-2007
On Sunday, September 7, 1975, I wandered into an old, wooden aikido dojo in suburban Tokyo. I was attracted by the hastily written sign:
No one who enters is turned away.... No one who leaves is pursued
The instructor was Takeshi Watabe. He was friendly without being familiar, eager without being pushy. He asked me if I wouldn't like to start learning right away, dressed just as I was in jeans and a T-shirt. He taught me a couple of nifty moves that afternoon, and continued to teach me nifty moves and more for the next 27 years.
He had just retired at age 60 from the Japanese Ministry of Defense. He was one of the finest metallurgists in the country, and had been seconded to the U.S. military command to investigate the composition of Soviet submarine propellers. Scraps of metal would be retrieved after subs scraped rocks or other surfaces in the North Pacific, and Watabe would analyze these to determine how the Soviets muffled propeller noise.
His job consisted of long stretches of nothing to do punctuated by brief, hectic activity. He was smoking two packs of cigarettes a day out of boredom, doodling a lot, and reading Agatha Christie novels in translation. A friend suggested he join the Ministry's aikido club, so at the age of 40, he quit smoking and doodling, and took up aikido. He received his black belt (1st Dan) at age 48. When I met him he was 4th Dan, and very well respected within the aikido community.
Watabe shortly thereafter became an instructor of Jo (Japanese quarter staff fighting), and an instructor of Tai Chi. He taught Tai Chi for twenty years. He learned to swim at age 65, and five years later received his scuba instructor's license. He led scuba trips to Guam and the South Pacific until age 80, when he found he could no longer carry the equipment comfortably on land. He took up ballroom dancing when he was 70, and loved to put on fancy clothes and twirl younger women around. He continued dancing twice a week until he was 87. He ended his aikido career at age 89 as 7th Dan.
In 1995, the Tokyo Institute of Gerontology together with the Asahi News Corporation published a book entitled Growing Old In Tokyo. The book was an analysis of data from a three-year survey of health, happiness, and quality of life of the elderly living in Tokyo. The results and conclusions were bleak, even depressing. Hidden like a shining nugget in the gloomy depths of the book was a chapter entitled Successful Aging. Takeshi Watabe was chosen as the ideal of successful aging for maintaining the vigor of his mind and body, for his active pursuit of social networks, for his intellectual curiosity and positive outlook, and for his enjoyment of teaching. The book revealed that the local elderly in his community referred to him as Super Wa, and the name stuck. That is what most of us called him, though not always to his face, until the end of his life.
THE HOLY TRINITY TRANSFORMED
In March of 1979 I was diagnosed with chronic sciatica, and by the Fall of 1980 I was bedridden. I was no longer able even to leave my apartment to observe aikido, and so Watabe would visit me several times a week with food and cheery conversation. In February, 1981 I met Mrs. Matsuura, and thanks to her qi ministrations, was healed and back doing aikido, albeit very slowly, by early Spring. Watabe was excited and curious to know more about healing by qi.
I began studying with Mrs. Matsuura, who, from the first, stressed what I called the Holy Trinity of qi medicine: Opportunity, Space, and Degree. Opportunity means the practitioner's ability to sense the precise moment to address directly the patient's complaint. Most adults are physically and mentally tense, and so are not fully receptive to qi treatment. Qi works quickly and effectively when the mind/body is in a state of relaxation, and so the bulk of a qi treatment consists of relaxing the patient so that the qi can be successfully transmitted. It takes experience to sense the right opportunity for effective transmission of qi.
Space means the ability to distance oneself from the patient and observe how the treatment should progress, and is progressing.
Degree means the effective amount of qi to be given, and the effective duration of transmission time necessary for positive results.
When I told Watabe about this trinity, he was first thoughtful, then merry. "That's what I've always said was the essence of aikido: the right move at the right time. Know when to start, when to stop, and how much to do in between." He was very pleased to have found that qi had even more applications than he had thought. "However," he said, "it seems to me that together with opportunity, space, and degree, you have to add movement, certainly in aikido. Without movement, nothing really occurs. Of course, it is the nature of the universe to be in constant motion. We add our movement to that of others, and we have a great qi experience whether for killing or healing."
I thought: Einstein added the 4th dimension, Time, to Newton's three spatial dimensions, and so revealed an active universe in infinite motion. Watabe added movement to Matsuura's Holy Trinity, and created an active relationship between practitioner and patient. By blending my movement ---both micro- and macroscopic movement--- to that of the patient, we form a bond that enhances the quality of the qi treatment. Another nifty move.
"ALL ARE EQUAL ON THE MATS"
The characteristics that made Watabe so admirable and lovable to me were, paradoxically, not valued by most Japanese. Many people, including his family members, considered him a kawatta hito, really offbeat. What made the Japanese most uncomfortable was his irreverence toward authority, especially his own. Whereas most Japanese martial arts instructors are dogmatically insistent that students do waza (movements/techniques) exactly as they are taught, Watabe encouraged students to find a style that suited them best, and encouraged them toward their own greatest mind/body freedom and ease of movement. He required that students show respect for the art and its traditions, but not necessarily for him and members of the aikido hierarchy. In fact, he banished hierarchy from the dojo.
Japan is a precisely stratified society, and dojo of any sort (from karate to ikebana) are the most rigidly stratified micro-societies of all. They are civilian copies of military society. To enter a society in which each individual's social position is not well defined is uncomfortable to most Japanese. This was the case for the majority of newcomers to the dojo. Watabe would state from the first, "All are equal on the tatami (mats)," which made a lot of beginners feel hopelessly adrift in what they expected to be a rigidly formalized society. It was as if the apex of the pyramid had told the base of the pyramid that the pyramid itself was an illusion, and that they were all standing on the same stratum. Those who had the psychic wherewithal to cope soon loved his style of liberty, equality, and fraternity, and respected him far more than if he had demanded their respect. He became each student's friend.
A BRIEF TRIBUTE
At age 88, Watabe was the oldest practicing martial arts instructor in Japan, and was asked by the Aikido Federation to give a demonstration of his art in front of an international audience of 4,000 people. I was asked to write a brief piece about him, which I have included in this remembrance.
My Aikido instructor, Takeshi Watabe, was a model of successful aging, and part of the reason was his fondness for getting and receiving qi. Another part of the reason was that he became a teacher at the cusp of "old age," from age 60, and remained eager to teach through his extreme old age. He taught until he was 89. As eager as he was to teach, so there were students eager to learn from him, and a healthy give-and-take of energy was the highlight of his old age.
He did not spend 49 years practicing Aikido in order to become a hero or warrior or to protect himself from attack. He practiced in order to develop his qi and to maintain his health. He enjoyed learning and he enjoyed teaching. He enjoyed the company of people who enjoyed exercising their qi. He avoided people who exercised only their strength. Mr. Watabe was a small man, and could not compete in strength with an average-size man, especially an average-size American man. Added to this, he did not begin his study of Aikido until he was forty years old, by which time he was considerably past his physical prime. This meant that he had to rely on qi to become a proficient martial artist. As he put it, "Making the right move at the right time."
And so he trained his qi, and his breath, and his sense of timing, so that strength and size became irrelevant to his understanding of Aikido. His technique was always fluid and flexible. It never fell into a pattern of "do such-and-such in so-and-so situation." His technique came from his personality and the refinement of his qi. It did not come from repetitive imitation of a martial art paradigm. Proficiency with qi gave him the ability to "read" people and situations, and it was a rare occasion that he did not make the right move at the right time.
His qi was of its very nature and cultivation a constructive rather than a destructive qi; in other words, his qi was a healing qi. He maintained a mental and emotional flexibility long after his body lost its nimbleness. Still, his body responded remarkably quickly to qi treatment. He suffered an accident at age 86 that twisted his sacrum and pelvis, leaving him in great pain. It took only two short treatments to restore him to his original shape and health.
Thoreau in Walden tells the parable of the artist of Kouroo, who, "As he made no compromise with Time, Time kept out of his way, and only sighed at a distance because he could not overcome him." In the same way, Takeshi Watabe made no compromise with size and strength. Therefore, when he reached old age, he had neither size nor strength to lose. He refined his qi, which kept him vigorous, flexible, esteemed, and in harmony with his environment. The infirmities of old age only sighed at a distance because they could not overcome him. I never knew him young, but I always knew him youthful.
Takeshi Watabe died of pneumonia on January 12. He was a mentor to many, a father to Therese and me, and was an active and loving grandfather to Corin. The body that gave him and his students so much pleasure and instruction is gone, but the qi that animated him is with us still.
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FROM HERE TO TRANQUILITY (I)
I have been, for twenty-five years, a student and practitioner of holistic medicine. During that time, I have never met an individual who suffered from an excess of relaxation. Or, to put it another way, I have never met an individual who suffered from a chronic lack of tension.
To the contrary, about 80% of the people I treat present stress-related symptoms and problems. (The remaining 20% consist of injury-related, age-related, and congenital problems.) Stress-related problems include insomnia, anxiety, depression, upper and lower back pain, headaches, migraines, female infertility, male impotence, fibromyalgia, irritable bowel syndrome, acid reflux, and stomach ulcers.
If the United States government were to regulate competition between causative factors for ill health in the same way it regulates, say, competition between companies regarding market share of an industry, a team of anti-trust lawyers would descend upon Stress, Inc. and order it to be broken up. Stress has such a clear-cut monopoly over every other causative factor that it is not just anti-free market, it is undemocratic. Those of you who love democracy and wish to see it preserved and enlarged should band together for a War on Stress. Although on second thought, that might prove too stressful, and end up being counter-productive.
Qi treatments and lessons for stress reduction and stress management are the most effective holistic preventive health measures I know of. This two-part article will explain how.
Let us for a moment consider an ideal, stress-free day. It's difficult, isn't it? That's because it doesn't exist. Most people think that life without stress means bad things not happening. For example, "It would be great if Baby slept through the night and I could catch up on my sleep," or "If I could only get to the office without hitting heavy traffic". The idea of a stress-free day comprised of a string of good things happening is almost unimaginable. The following is what I consider to be a generic ideal day.
THE IDEAL DAY
You wake up five minutes before the alarm, fully refreshed from eight hours of dreamless sleep. The hot water flows out as soon as you turn on the faucet, and your electric toothbrush is fully charged. You get on the scale, and find that you lost 3 pounds during the night. Junior is dressed and enjoying a nutritious breakfast that he made himself, while doing extra study of math drills. As he leaves the house, he beams cheerfully and says, "Don't worry, Mom, I'll have that cold fusion problem licked by dinnertime."
Your hair works not well, but splendidly, and your skin has a healthy glow. Your husband notices, and makes risquŽ suggestions for that evening after Junior goes to bed. You set out for work feeling youthful and frisky.
Traffic is light, and your favorite classical piece, Shubert's Trout Quintet, is playing on the car radio. The music is briefly interrupted by a news flash announcing that the Dow has risen 2600 points, and the 1500 shares of the lemon stock that you never thought you could unload are now up by $638 a share. Exhilarated, you call your broker on your hands-free car phone, and order him to sell.
At work, four clients phone to thank you for your brilliance and efficiency. Your secretary is courteous and cooperative, and you note with delight that he has for once spelled your name correctly rather than phonetically. You leave work feeling fulfilled, and looking forward to an evening with your loving family.
You return home to find that Junior is finishing up his homework, and begging for household chores to do. You let him clean out the rain gutters before dinner. He is so grateful that he volunteers to load the dishwasher and take out the garbage after dinner.
Your husband returns home with a bouquet of fragrant flowers. He leers at you the way he did before Junior was born 12 years ago. You feel as sexy as you did the night you got pregnant.
Dinner is a perfect poem because you had the revelation that half a cup of Calvados would add a gustatory frisson to your chicken casserole. Even Junior asks for seconds.
When dinner ends, you and your husband hold hands across the dining room table and gaze amorously at each other while listening to the sweet sound of Junior laboring in the kitchen.
Junior bathes, and puts himself to bed by 9:00. You and your husband change into your pj's, and watch a little TV in bed. The news reports that nothing of any significance happened anywhere in the world today, and that tomorrow's weather will set new records of excellence.
You turn down the lights, and enjoy an amorous hour before falling ---- excited, fulfilled and exhausted, aaaah .... --- into a dreamless slumber.
If, on the other hand, you live in the same sort of industrial society upon the same planet as I do, then your day is pretty stressful, as follows.
THE ACTUAL DAY
You wake up after hitting the 5-minute XtraSnooze button on the alarm clock three times, and haul yourself out of bed feeling like you need another couple of hours of sleep. The bathroom is chilly, and it takes a good three minutes for the sink water to become warm. Your electric toothbrush has lost its charge, and you remember that you saw Junior chasing the cat with the recharge cord two days ago. You stumble into the kitchen hoping to find him, but he is eating cold pizza and drinking a can of root beer on the new den sofa while watching a steamy soap opera in a language unknown to you. He tells you that the cat took the cord and buried it in the garden.
Your frustration mounts as your hair seems to have a life of its own. Your husband compares your look to that of a porcupine. You leave for work feeling old and edgy.
The drive is somehow worse than usual. One man calls you an idiot, one woman calls you a jerk, and a young woman flips you the bird as they drive by. Your frustration is rising high, and you take several deep breaths and turn on the car radio. Your favorite classical work is interrupted by the news that the Dow has fallen 383 points, and your particular gilt-edged, foolproof portfolio has lost 29% of its value. You fear that you may not be able to put Junior through college or retire as early as you would like.
As for work ---- well, the less said about it the better. People either failed to understand what you told them or else botched the execution of your orders. The result was confusion, some hard feelings, and frustration over having to re-do what should have been a straightforward procedure.
You return home to find Junior waiting for you with a note from his math teacher, asking you to see him in order to clarify just why your son is performing at a level he should have surpassed three grades ago. You feel anger and disappointment.
Your husband returns home cheerful, but is crestfallen when he reads the teacher's note. He says that the two of you will have to dip into your meager private time in order to tutor Junior in math for a while. Either that or lose your summer vacation in order to put him through summer school.
Dinner is tasty, but uninspired. You have a brief, intense row with Junior in order to coerce him to help with the cleaning up. He compares you, unfairly, to Hitler, and you again feel anger and frustration at how little help you receive, and how even that little help is grudging.
Junior finally succumbs to relentless coercion, has his bath, and goes to bed at 9:30. You pray he sleeps and does not play with his Gameboy under the covers. Meanwhile, you and your husband, who hardly had time to notice each other this day, change into your pj's for a quiet moment of conversation and TV news. The news seems to have little else than stories of homicidal pedophiles, and the two of you feel a clutch in your hearts as you think of your naiA‹Nve and defenseless child in the next room.
Slightly uneasy, you have trouble falling asleep. Your dreams are complicated, and you wake, agitated, twice during the night to pee.
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FROM HERE TO TRANQUILITY (II)
Our present attitude to stress differs radically from that of earlier societies, who perceived stress as a physical problem. Take the Victorians and their literature for example. Victorian descriptions of reaction to stress are almost always concrete. "Her throat constricted, and her mouth went dry. Words would not come." "His legs suddenly lost the strength to support him. His worry had robbed him of the powers of movement." "His heart pounded so fearfully within his chest that he doubted it could continue without bursting." Their expressions of the physicality of stress appear overblown and melodramatic to us.
Nowadays, we prefer to mellow out with anti-depressants and mood elevators. We choose to portray each of life's stressful moments from an "emotional" point of view. "She felt/he felt" is commonly used to express the phenomenon of stress, especially stress that obtains, not from a situation that confronts us that moment, but from an anxious thought. Stress is usually considered as a mental/emotional phenomenon. Thus, programs for alleviating stress are centered on a mental process. We are instructed to gaze tranquilly at a lava lamp, or listen to the sound of waves on tape, or lie still with our eyes closed and imagine a gorgeous beach scene. These mental approaches to dealing with stress seek to divert our thoughts. Most of them work to a degree, and some for a goodish amount of time. But, alas, our thoughts return, and with them, stress-inducing fears of the future.
We are told to take a break, or to go on vacation "to recharge our batteries" (whatever that means). This is all well and good, but every break and vacation has to end, and returning home with recharged batteries is not going to help us stand up to the stress that drove us to vacation in the first place.
In the last Newsletter describing an Ideal Day and an Actual Day, I wrote that stress is the prime causative factor for ill health in our society. This is because every emotional response to a stressful event produces a corresponding physical reaction. In terms of bodily as well as mental health, the "you" of the Ideal Day has had her store of health increased. The "you" of the Actual Day, on the other hand, has received many small but telling blows to her muscles, heart, lungs, circulation, digestion, body cleansing mechanism, and emotional equipoise. Repetition and accumulation of these blows will lead to a physical breakdown that impairs body functions.
Follow The Leader
But is it only the mind that reacts to stress and sets the pernicious physical effects in motion? The qi perspective takes it as axiomatic that it is more frequently physical responses to stress that produce emotional reactions. In other words, my approach turns conventional wisdom about stress on its head.
Marcel Proust had his memory/emotions jogged by the physicality-the aroma, texture, and taste-of a little cake, and went on to write a four-volume novel that is considered a modern masterpiece. His body set his mind in motion. John Keats heard a nightingale, and was moved to write a poem. In the same way, we hear unpleasant news at a meeting, and our blood pressure rises and our stomach starts secreting acid. We then feel under stress. On the other hand, a gorgeous or picturesque sight will lower our blood pressure and set our stomach purring. This is the physical trigger that suddenly releases us from the tension of the day that Keats refers to when he writes: "The setting sun will always set me to rights." And at that sight, we, like Keats, feel the happiness that is the hallmark of an absence of stress.
The body is capable of relaxing the mind and keeping it relaxed. This is how the SIKE approach differs from that of others. By giving primacy to the body rather than to the mind, we are able to re-associate with the powers of Nature. Restoring the integrity of the body to its rightful position of power lessens the effects of the "swiftly dividing mind," and restores us to tranquility.
All of us know that we should close our eyes and count slowly to ten before giving way to anger. This is about as close as conventional stress management comes to incorporating the body alone in stress management. This is, no doubt, a very good and useful means of deflating stress-induced anger, and has probably saved countless children from a spanking. However, what I propose is a change of awareness of, and attitude towards stress, while at the same time adopting physical exercises as preventive measures.
Breathe, Darn Ya, Breathe!
The First Step is to recognize the stress that you are under. I do not mean the origin of the stress-the bad traffic or the pressing deadline or your spouse's health problem--, but the physical sensation within you. That sensation produces mental stress, which in turn aggravates the physical sensation. You will notice that your breathing is shallow, irregular, unsatisfying; perhaps you are barely breathing!
The surest way to give stress and trauma a good home is to hold your breath. Whenever you hear bad news, see an awful sight, touch something creepy, smell something revolting, or taste the bitterness of despair or the bile of anger, exhale through the mouth as powerfully as you can. Most people suck in their breath, and hold it, releasing it only in small, nasal bursts. You have now given food, clothing, and shelter to stress and trauma. You can release tension from your body with a powerful exhalation, followed by a conscious effort at stabilizing your breath into a satisfying rhythm.
The uniquely human consciousness of time, both short-term and long-term, causes us agitation, whether it is the fear of dying tomorrow, or the worry of arriving late somewhere. Thoughts of time disturb our breathing. Again, it is good to exhale powerfully, and get back on a rhythmic breathing track.
You will be amazed by what a healing difference an awareness of your breathing will create.
The Second Step is to be aware of locked-in tension. Men tend to clench their jaw. You can see the jaw muscles bulge. Women tend to clench their buttocks. Both men and women lock tension in their shoulders.
Are your jaw muscles tense? Are your shoulders relaxed and sloping, or are they high and tight, something like the Ed Sullivan Look? Is your neck extended, or is it withdrawn like a frightened turtle's neck? Is your backside soft like Jell-o on springs, or hard as a board?
You can relax your body by exhaling through the mouth and letting the jaw go slack. A second breath will relax your neck and lower your shoulders. A third breath, combined with bending the knees will release tension from the backside.
Having done this, if it is possible, take a short walk, even around the house, letting your arms dangle and taking long strides.
The Wonder of Kiryu
I devoted a chapter in my book Qi Energy for Health and Healing to kiryu, what it is and how to do it. This being a short Newsletter, I will not take the space to reiterate what I have already said there at length. Kiryu is, in my experience, the fastest, most effective, and overall best way to remove stress, induce relaxation, and keep the body balanced, meaning harmony of internal and external movement.
Kiryu is Japanese for "the flow of ki (qi)". This flow follows the neural pathway of the extra pyramidal motor system (EMS), releasing tension when it is excessive, and inducing tension when it is missing.
The Extrapyramidal Motor System
The extrapyramidal motor system and the autonomic nervous system govern all facets of the balance of tension and relaxation within the body. The application of qi to the EMS will trigger a flow of energy throughout that system and throughout the ANS. This energy flow will bypass the central nervous system and transcend thought (conscious behavior). It will sweep away blockages and barriers to the smooth passage of qi. It will remove tension and promote relaxation, and will restore the functioning of organs to their original integrity. In Japanese, the exercise promoting the uninhibited flow of qi is called Kiryu.
Kiryu creates physical anarchy in a way we have not experienced since early childhood. We were then free to respond to the body's demands and express its striving for health any way we liked. We could fart, belch, burp, roll around on the floor, cry, yell and scream, jump and run, giggle uncontrollably...all with impunity. As we aged and learned manners and entered society, we learned to suppress a fart, squelch a belch, curb our physical impulses, etc. In other words, we repress and suppress all the hundreds of little release mechanisms designed to rid ourselves of tension.
Above all, we feel self-conscious about movement. We join movement classes and dance classes and exercise classes in order to have a safe and approved environment in which to move in a manner different from our "everyday" manner. No one seems to notice that while our minds are in constant motion, our bodies hardly move in proportion in our daily life.
Social conventions state that the fewer our movements, the more well-behaved we are. "Children should be seen and not heard." We take pride when our young children do not run around and make noise in a restaurant, but sit with a minimum of movement and talk. "We are good parents," we think, "we have taught our children self-control. Now we can enjoy our meal."
Looked at from your own physiology, stress can "teach" you self-control. Stress can impair the movements of cells, nerves, muscles, and organs so that they sit quietly doing nothing. ...you would like to get your body "moving again" to improve your health and enjoyment of life's little pleasures.
The EMS and ANS, stimulated by qi, use any and all of our original release mechanisms to promote relaxation and restore our bodies to a healthy equilibrium.
The body is always adjusting and fine-tuning itself. Kiryu releases the body's full potential to adjust and fine-tune.
And just as each person has his own anatomy and qi characteristics, so each person reacts in subtly different ways to Kiryu. There are, however, a number of characteristic responses to Kiryu.
1. The most common, indeed universal, response is uninhibited movement. Your body may begin to twitch spasmodically, shake, shiver, or sway. You may feel you want to walk or simply lie on the floor moving your feet or legs. You may feel like flapping your arms or shaking your wrists or snapping your fingers or all of the above.
The qi will naturally go to any part of the body that is over-tense, and seek to relax it through movement. If you have bruised your right elbow, you may expect your arm to shake so that the muscles relax and the elbow joint gently moves. If you have a headache, you may expect your head to sway and your neck to swivel in order to relax the muscles along the 1st and 2nd cervical vertebrae (C1 and C2).
Movements are never violent. They are always pleasurable.
2. Yawning is a typical response. You would be surprised how many people do not yawn at all. Or cannot yawn at all. Yawning is a sign of health, a sign that the body is capable of relaxation. People who cannot yawn are destined to sleep dysfunction and lower back pain. Kiryu stimulates the body to yawn and to stretch. When you have done Kiryu for some months, you find that you begin to yawn and stretch just at the thought of inducing Kiryu.
3. A release of vocalized sounds is a common response. This could be laughter or giggling, it could be a moan, it could be humming, it could be singing, it could be noises pushed out with your breath.
4. A release of fluids frequently occurs. Tears are common in the case of women, less so in men. A woman may suddenly feel "emotional," not necessarily happy or sad, but having an irrepressible desire to cry, releasing both fluid and sounds at the same time.
As the muscles in the jaw and neck relax, the body may produce a lot of saliva.
Another type of fluid is mucus from the nose.
And finally, the body may sweat profusely without becoming feverish. The sweat may come from the entire body, or it may be localized, such as from the scalp or armpits.
5. The stomach and intestines may gurgle and rumble as they are released from their usual bondage of tension.
The effect of Kiryu is a release from tension. You feel remarkably relaxed and clear-headed. Minor aches and pains vanish, and there is usually a sensible diminution of major aches and pains. The cumulative effect of Kiryu-that is, to make Kiryu a daily or thrice-weekly part of your health regimen-is to promote deep, refreshing sleep, improve digestion and muscle tone, strengthen the body's immune system, and keep the cleansing system functioning effectively.
Kiryu is the cheapest, easiest, and most effective preventive medicine measure ever devised. (I wish I had thought of it.)
A word of caution: Because Kiryu stimulates and strengthens the immune system, people with artificial body parts should not attempt the procedure. Their bodies will seek to reject the artificial "intruder."
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Wrinkled with black spots,
Bent back, bald head, white beard,
Trembling hands, wobbly legs,
Teeth falling out, failing hearing, failing vision,
Wearing a headscarf and glasses, walking with a cane,
Fearful of death, lonely,
Greedy, impatient, foolish, nosey,
Annoying, and bossy,
Praising one's children in the same old stories,
Proud of one's health,
Hated by everybody.
(Afflictions of Old Age)
Zen Master Sengai (1750-1837)
The image of the elderly has hardly changed today.
Sengai was a kind-hearted man, and his poem is meant as gentle irony. However, it is hard for people (especially for people who do not deal directly with the elderly) to realize that, while true, much of what Sengai wrote about can be prevented, ameliorated, or cared for.
The defining feature of aging is loss of flexibility. Eventually, this loss becomes so great that we return to the helplessness of the infant. We become dependent on the help and good will of others. This is not a welcome condition to someone who has been to some degree autonomous since age two, not to mention someone who has held positions of responsibility and managed to raise a family.
A decline in autonomy frequently leads to an alteration of the character of our qi; we become, as Sengai wrote, "greedy, impatient, foolish, nosey, annoying and bossy." These are not attractive characteristics, yet they certainly |